Sunday, November 1, 2009

How to approach a girl (as requested)

I received an sms from one of the followers of this blog (there are only two of them :-)) to write something about how to approach a girl. I'm no expert on this but I'll give in (I don't approach girls, they approach me, ahahaha!) Okay, so I'll give in.

You know, girls are very-very or probably extremely unpredictable, it takes time to know them, yes, you need to know them for you to find out what appproach your going to do to approach them, girl's attitude, personality, likes and dislikes can be compared to an analogy, "Citizens are to president as solar system is to galaxy", try to give a CD of Rey Valera as a gift to a girl who digs in songs of Machinehead, I don't think she'll be happy about it, if you see the same CD the you gave her in a trash bin, we'll that's probably yours (it'll melt your heart).

You have to make a research about her, what are her interests, who are her friends, her favorite place, favorite food, favorite color, in short be a stalker (but in a very discrete way).

Okay, so you made a research already, it's time to approach her, this is the dicey part.

Approach number 1

Say hi to her, very simple but a lot of us turn pale or whitish, the technique here is put some foundation (not the white one, the brown one) on your face and neck to conceal your softness and smile. I said smile, or a grin probably, not too wide, and avoid drooling. When you smile make it realistic, you smile with your eyes, not just with your lips, you're not paralized for you not to be able to do it. Make sure she's looking at your way or facing you when you say hi, make sure she'll hear you.

Positive response


She'll smile back at you and say hi to you and when she does wave your right hand and smile again.


don't smile this way, pic courtesy of http://media.merchantcircle.com/22618517/best%20donkey%20smile1_full.jpeg

Negative response

As if nothing happened, she ignored you. (when this happens you proceed to approach number 2)

Approach number 2

Have you made your research? Does she have the Mother Theresa's heart? If yes, this approach may help you. Faint in front of her, I don't care how you will do it, just faint.

Positive response

She will rush towards you to help, now don't talk yet, don't open your eyes yet, pretend as if you're dead, wait for the mouth to mouth resuscitation.

Negative response
For the second time she ignored you, you didn't do your research I guess. (the bad thing is there's no third approach that I can think of)

There's just no perfect way to approach a girl and ensure it's success. From my point of view, you need to feel how are they going to respond if you approach them regardless if you use approach number one or two. There should be always chemistry, this chemistry you feel it spontaneously once you say hi to a girl, don't askt the girl immediately what she felt after you said hi to her, you'll feel it if something went off inside of her (I'm not sure of that word hehe). Then, you do it again, say hi and check her response, if you think the reponse is positive, take it to the next level, now go ahead and talk to her, talk about everything, and try to make her comfortable with your presence.

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